• Aaron Velky

2 Free Ways to Support Your Employees During Stressful At-Home Workdays

She said to me, with a smile that was more visible in the corner of her eyes than anywhere else, "I feel calm. I know what I need to do and I'm ready."

You would think I gave her some sage wisdom, but in fact, I did not. The advice was very, very simple. Over 90% of the call was WAY more difficult than giving advice.

I listened.

In workplaces all across the globe, our typical social interactions have dramatically shifted. We've gone digital - and while there's some real value in a no-commute, keep-on-your-slippers workplace, there are some important costs of the shift.

These costs can be assuaged with some intention, and in two somewhat simple (simple and easy are different, remember!) maneuvers, we can demonstrate leadership to our teams when the need it most.

And they need it now.

"[Humans are] profoundly shaped by our social environment and that we suffer greatly when our social bonds are threatened or severed," says scientist Matthew Lieberman in this article about how we're wired.

Social bonds are certainly threatened in this new digital movement. But more importantly towards solutions, he also suggests that "praise and an environment free from social threats are also powerful motivators."

Motivators, they are, and motivators they shall be! :)

Let's get to it. Here's two things you and your team can do to help relieve stress - whether it be related to money, parenting, family, health, not getting up from the chair enough, or anything else:


1. Host Empathy Sessions (Otherwise known as Check-Ins)

Not unlike your review meetings, or your check-ins, these are all about your people being human. They need attention, they need connection. It's part of being human.

For those that are tasked with managing others, taking the time each month to spend 1-on-1 with each staff member may sound like spending all week on calls. While it does seem daunting, and may even feel like it's off coursing some of your week, there's some real value to you, your team and the business overall.

An empathy session is more than just a check-in; it's a tactical ace.

An empathy session is more than just a check in; it's a tactical Ace for your team to feel praised and unthreatened, from the above statement about how to motivate them. Instead of feeling the need to power them through, or provide the right words, lean into the "question-as-a-response" conversation starter.

This may require you to be incredibly intentional about how you set up the call. My advice would be to do these three things:

A. Schedule the call and in that initial invite, share the intention clearly. You can share that you'd like to create space to listen and see how they are doing, beyond the simple tenants of how their work is doing. Acknowledge their human. See their humanity.

B. When you first get on the video or voice call, rephrase the intention. "I'd love to create just a little window of time to be open, listen and support you. I know we have working relationship, but we're people, and I want to support you. I may not be able to solve all your problems, in and out of work, but I can show support for you and be here for you to listen."

C. Listen.

Here's the hardest part (C). Actually listening.

If someone tells you about how hard it's been managing work and a kid at home, but you don't have kids, keep listening and fight the urge to reply. If you need a tip, reiterate what was said. "I hear you, and while I don't know what it's like to experience that, I can imagine it would be a challenge." Sometimes, that can be enough.

Empathy begins when we see someone's str